Setting Boundaries® with Your Aging Parents: Finding Balance Between Burnout and Respect

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Harvest House Publishers, Apr 1, 2010 - Religion - 240 pages

This important book from the author of Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children (more than 40,000 sold) will help adult children who long for a better relationship with their parents but feel trapped in a never-ending cycle of chaos, crisis, or drama.

With keen insight and a passion to empower adult children, Allison charts a trustworthy roadmap through the often unfamiliar territory of setting boundaries with parents while maintaining personal balance and avoiding burnout. Through the use of professional advice, true stories, and scriptural truth, readers learn how to apply the “6 Steps to SANITY”:

S-STOP your own negative behavior
A-ASSEMBLE a support group
N-NIP excuses in the bud
I-IMPLEMENT rules and boundaries
T-TRUST your instincts
Y-YIELD everything to God

Resources are available at the ministry website: www.settingboundaries.com

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... feel trapped in a seemingly never-ending cycle of chaos, crisis, or drama. Your parents are in control and are making very poor choices. The dad who promised to make the car payments should have kept his promise. The mom whose rent was ...
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... feeling like gerbils spinning on the wheel of life and going nowhere fast . We can address and eliminate our overwhelming sense of guilt . We can stop beings martyrs , doormats , and control freaks . We can stop responding emotionally ...
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... feel grateful to our parents and to repay them for what they have done for us. 2 Yes, it's good to feel grateful. However, does being grateful also mean we must willingly accept negative, harmful, and cruel behavior from our aging ...
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... feeling old . Just before I left the house , my wise husband , Steve , had said , “ Tell Dr. Mastroianni I think you're depressed . " I told the doctor adding a weak chuckle . " I knew it the minute you walked in the door . " His gray ...
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... feel guilty , angry , used , controlled , or manipulated . I don't want to feel like I'm beginning to hate the people I love . Knowing what we don't want is good . Knowing how we got here and then doing something proactive to change the ...

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Contents

Foreword by Mark Sichel
What This Book Is Really About
Avoiding Burnout and Building Mutual Respect
The Road to Burnout
Stop the Insanity
Its All About Change and Choice
Im Only Trying to Help
The Motivation Behind the Madness
NNip Excuses in the
IImplement Rules and Boundaries
TTrustYour Instincts 17 YYield Everything to
The Dawn of a New Beginning
Put It in Writing
Stress Triggers
Expectations
Consequences

Pain from the Past
Toxic Elders and Destructive Choices
The Power of Love and Forgiveness
Respect
When Your Parents Become Dependent
Financial Fallout
The Six Steps to SANITY
SStop Your Own Negative Behavior
AAssemble a Support Group
Sowing and Reaping
A Closing Message from Allison
Sample Letters
Notes
Stay in Touch
About the Author
You can also find SANITY in the first of Allisons Setting Boundaries books
Six Steps to SANITY Support Groups An Invitation from Allison COMING SOON Spring 2011
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About the author (2010)

Allison Bottke is the award-winning author of the acclaimed Setting Boundaries® series, which includes Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Setting Boundaries with Your Aging Parents, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People, Setting Boundaries with Food, Setting Boundaries for Women, and The Young Women’s Guide to Setting Boundaries. She is the founder of the SANITY Support Group, an outreach based on the Setting Boundaries® series (more than 150,000 sold). Her other books include the God Answers Prayers series, and she is the founder and general editor of more than a dozen volumes in the popular God Allows U-Turns® anthology. She has written or edited more than 30 nonfiction and fiction books, and is a frequent guest on national radio and TV programs. Allison lives in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.

www.settingboundariesbooks.com

Awards

Winner of the Selah Award for Best Book of the Year for Setting Boundaries with Food in 2013

Bibliographic information

TitleSetting Boundaries® with Your Aging Parents: Finding Balance Between Burnout and Respect
AuthorAllison Bottke
ContributorMark Sichel
PublisherHarvest House Publishers, 2010
ISBN0736938591, 9780736938594
Length240 pages
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Religion / Christian Living / Family & Relationships
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