Setting Boundaries® with Your Aging Parents: Finding Balance Between Burnout and Respect

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Harvest House Publishers, Apr 1, 2010 - Religion - 240 pages

This important book from the author of Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children (more than 40,000 sold) will help adult children who long for a better relationship with their parents but feel trapped in a never-ending cycle of chaos, crisis, or drama.

With keen insight and a passion to empower adult children, Allison charts a trustworthy roadmap through the often unfamiliar territory of setting boundaries with parents while maintaining personal balance and avoiding burnout. Through the use of professional advice, true stories, and scriptural truth, readers learn how to apply the “6 Steps to SANITY”:

S-STOP your own negative behavior
A-ASSEMBLE a support group
N-NIP excuses in the bud
I-IMPLEMENT rules and boundaries
T-TRUST your instincts
Y-YIELD everything to God

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Foreword by Mark Sichel
What This Book Is Really About
Avoiding Burnout and Building Mutual Respect 1 The Road to Burnout
Stop the Insanity
Its All About Change and Choice
Im Only Trying to Help
The Motivation Behind the Madness
Pain from the Past
IImplement Rules and Boundaries
TTrustYour Instincts 17 YYield Everything to
The Dawn of a New Beginning 18 Put It in Writing
Stress Triggers
Sowing and Reaping
A Closing Message from Allison

Toxic Elders and Destructive Choices
The Power of Love and Forgiveness
When Your Parents Become Dependent
Financial Fallout
The Six Steps to SANITY 12 SStop Your Own Negative Behavior
AAssemble a Support Group
NNip Excuses in the
Sample Letters
Stay in Touch
About the Author
You can also find SANITY in the first of Allisons Setting Boundaries books
Six Steps to SANITY Support Groups An Invitation from Allison COMING SOON Spring 2011

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About the author (2010)

Allison Bottke is the award-winning author of the acclaimed Setting Boundaries® series, which includes Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Setting Boundaries with Your Aging Parents, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People, Setting Boundaries with Food, Setting Boundaries for Women, and The Young Women’s Guide to Setting Boundaries. She is the founder of the SANITY Support Group, an outreach based on the Setting Boundaries® series (more than 150,000 sold). Her other books include the God Answers Prayers series, and she is the founder and general editor of more than a dozen volumes in the popular God Allows U-Turns® anthology. She has written or edited more than 30 nonfiction and fiction books, and is a frequent guest on national radio and TV programs. Allison lives in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.


Winner of the Selah Award for Best Book of the Year for Setting Boundaries with Food in 2013

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