Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating BehaviorPractical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more. |
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Contents
Chasing After Love and Approval From | 1 |
Procrastinating | 11 |
Waiting Until Its Too Late | 21 |
Saying Yes When You Want to Say No | 29 |
Assuming They Dont Want Anything | 37 |
Playing It Safe | 41 |
Always Having to Be Right | 45 |
Focusing on What Your Partner Is Doing Wrong | 49 |
Trying to Take Care of Everybody | 100 |
Refusing to Play Games | 104 |
Putting on an Act to Make a Good Impression | 108 |
Being Envious of Others | 113 |
Feeling Sorry for Yourself | 117 |
Assuming the Hard Way Is the Right Way | 122 |
Thinking Im Sorry Is Enough | 126 |
Holding It All In | 130 |
Putting up With Broken Promises | 54 |
Trying to Make up While Youre Still Angry | 59 |
Not Learning From Your Mistakes | 63 |
Trying to Change Others | 67 |
Rebelling Just for the Sake of Rebelling | 71 |
Talking When Nobodys Listening | 75 |
Pretending Youre Fine When Youre Not | 79 |
Becoming Obsessive or Compulsive | 83 |
Taking Things Too Personally | 88 |
Acting Too Needy | 92 |
Having Unrealistic Expectations | 96 |
Quitting Too Soon | 135 |
Letting Others Control Your Life | 139 |
Leaving Too Much to Chance | 143 |
Letting Fear Run Your Life | 148 |
Not Moving on After a Loss | 152 |
Not Getting Out When the Getting Is Good | 156 |
Not Asking for What You Need | 161 |
Giving Advice When They Want Something Else | 166 |
Backing Down Because You Dont Feel Ready | 171 |
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Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg Limited preview - 1996 |
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg Limited preview - 1996 |
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg No preview available - 1996 |
Common terms and phrases
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