Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating BehaviorPractical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more. |
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Page ix
... You're Still Angry Not Learning From Your Mistakes Trying to Change Others Rebelling Just for the Sake of Rebelling Talking When Nobody's Listening Pretending You're Fine When You're Not Becoming Obsessive or Compulsive Taking Things ...
... You're Still Angry Not Learning From Your Mistakes Trying to Change Others Rebelling Just for the Sake of Rebelling Talking When Nobody's Listening Pretending You're Fine When You're Not Becoming Obsessive or Compulsive Taking Things ...
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... they're much more likely to come around if you use understanding and acceptance rather than coercion and guilt. 5. You can't fix something until you admit it's broken. A fine line separates being direct from being blunt, being assertive ...
... they're much more likely to come around if you use understanding and acceptance rather than coercion and guilt. 5. You can't fix something until you admit it's broken. A fine line separates being direct from being blunt, being assertive ...
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... They're actually afraid they won't be able to work the computer. 9. Self-involvement is usually at the root of self-defeating behavior in relationships. It's great to work on your selfdefeating behavior, but don't get so obsessed that you ...
... They're actually afraid they won't be able to work the computer. 9. Self-involvement is usually at the root of self-defeating behavior in relationships. It's great to work on your selfdefeating behavior, but don't get so obsessed that you ...
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... you identified exactly how you're defeating yourself and vowed never to do it again? Too often? Relax. The first thing you should know is that you're not alone. My patients have ranged from ordinary folks struggling to make ends meet to ...
... you identified exactly how you're defeating yourself and vowed never to do it again? Too often? Relax. The first thing you should know is that you're not alone. My patients have ranged from ordinary folks struggling to make ends meet to ...
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... you feel and where you feel it. In your stomach? Head? Neck? Chest? Step 2: Increase emotional awareness. Try to ... re Gaining, Not What You're Losing No matter how destructive it is, a self-defeating behavior serves a purpose. And no ...
... you feel and where you feel it. In your stomach? Head? Neck? Chest? Step 2: Increase emotional awareness. Try to ... re Gaining, Not What You're Losing No matter how destructive it is, a self-defeating behavior serves a purpose. And no ...
Contents
Section 1 | 71 |
Section 2 | 95 |
Section 3 | 99 |
Section 4 | 138 |
Section 5 | 173 |
Section 6 | 177 |
Section 7 | 179 |
Section 8 | 181 |
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Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg Limited preview - 1996 |
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg Limited preview - 1996 |
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg No preview available - 1996 |
Common terms and phrases
able accept adult afraid Alcoholics Anonymous ALEXANDER POPE anger angry avoid become child core of hate create defeating deprived didn’t effort emotional empathy envy eventually example expect express fear feel safe feel sorry felt forgive FRANCIS BACON frustration getting give happen hope husband important impulse keep kids know-it-all less lives look lose Mark Goulston marriage Menninger Foundation mind mistake mother needy never okay OSCAR WILDE ourselves overcome pain parents partner patients Paul Penguin Group Penguin Group USA PERIGEE person play problem procrastinate promise promise-breakers psychosomatic illness RALPH WALDO EMERSON realize reason rebel relationship resentment self-defeating behavior sense situation someone spouse stop sure TAKING ACTION talking tell therapist therapy they’re things thought told trauma trust turn understand upset USABLE INSIGHT usually wait what’s wife won’t wrong you’ll you’ve