Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating BehaviorPractical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more. |
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Page xiii
... it's much less self-defeating to acknowledge the problem early on and deal with it effectively— with compassion, respect, and empathy. 4. There is nothing more futile than trying to change another person.
... it's much less self-defeating to acknowledge the problem early on and deal with it effectively— with compassion, respect, and empathy. 4. There is nothing more futile than trying to change another person.
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The longer you persist in self-defeating behavior the more likely you are to lose the respect and trust of others. Even if no one is immediately hurt or offended by your actions, they will still become wary of what might happen next—and ...
The longer you persist in self-defeating behavior the more likely you are to lose the respect and trust of others. Even if no one is immediately hurt or offended by your actions, they will still become wary of what might happen next—and ...
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But if you nip self-defeating behavior in the bud, resist the temptation to give in to it and replace it with a positive self-developing behavior, you will discover more selfesteem and self-respect than you have ever experienced in your ...
But if you nip self-defeating behavior in the bud, resist the temptation to give in to it and replace it with a positive self-developing behavior, you will discover more selfesteem and self-respect than you have ever experienced in your ...
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plagued by so much self-contempt that they felt undeserving of love and respect. One of my patients was a world-renowned jazz musician. During the last months of his life, as terminal cancer dragged him slowly toward death, ...
plagued by so much self-contempt that they felt undeserving of love and respect. One of my patients was a world-renowned jazz musician. During the last months of his life, as terminal cancer dragged him slowly toward death, ...
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... measure of self-respect. Take advantage of that feeling of pride. Rewarding yourself for a job well done will reinforce your new behavior and help you make the change permanent. Refer to the Usable Insight “That is what learning is.
... measure of self-respect. Take advantage of that feeling of pride. Rewarding yourself for a job well done will reinforce your new behavior and help you make the change permanent. Refer to the Usable Insight “That is what learning is.
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Contents
| 1 | |
Procrastinating | 11 |
Waiting Until Its Too Late | 21 |
Saying Yes When You Want to Say No | 29 |
Assuming They Dont Want Anything | 37 |
Playing It Safe | 41 |
Always Having to Be Right | 45 |
Focusing on What Your Partner Is Doing Wrong | 49 |
Trying to Take Care of Everybody | 100 |
Refusing to Play Games | 104 |
Putting on an Act to Make a Good Impression | 108 |
Being Envious of Others | 113 |
Feeling Sorry for Yourself | 117 |
Assuming the Hard Way Is the Right Way | 122 |
Thinking Im Sorry Is Enough | 126 |
Holding It All In | 130 |
Putting up With Broken Promises | 54 |
Trying to Make up While Youre Still Angry | 59 |
Not Learning From Your Mistakes | 63 |
Trying to Change Others | 67 |
Rebelling Just for the sake of Rebelling | 71 |
Talking When Nobodys Listening | 75 |
Pretending Youre Fine When Youre Not | 79 |
Becoming Obsessive or Compulsive | 83 |
Taking Things Too Personally | 88 |
Acting Too Needy | 92 |
Having Unrealistic Expectations | 96 |
Quitting Too Soon | 135 |
Letting Others Control Your Life | 139 |
Leaving Too Much to Chance | 143 |
Letting Fear Run Your Life | 148 |
Not Moving on After a Loss | 152 |
Not Getting Out When the Getting Is Good | 156 |
Not Asking for What You Need | 161 |
Giving Advice When They Want Something Else | 166 |
Backing Down Because You Dont Feel Ready | 171 |
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Bibliographic information
| Title | Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior |
| Authors | Mark Goulston, Philip Goldberg |
| Publisher | Penguin, 1996 |
| ISBN | 1101657758, 9781101657751 |
| Length | 208 pages |
| Subjects | › › Self-Help / Personal Growth / Self-Esteem Self-Help / Personal Growth / Success Self-Help / Self-Management / General |
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