Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating BehaviorPractical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more. |
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Page xiii
... keeping their feelings to themselves. Staying angry and living with the pain seems to be a better choice than having another argument. The problem is, if you do not deal with hurt and disappointment quickly enough those feelings harden ...
... keeping their feelings to themselves. Staying angry and living with the pain seems to be a better choice than having another argument. The problem is, if you do not deal with hurt and disappointment quickly enough those feelings harden ...
Page xv
... keeping cumbersome paper files. They're actually afraid they won't be able to work the computer. 9. Self-involvement is ... keep a friend or lover. You can begin to repair such rifts only through empathy. Get in the habit of putting ...
... keeping cumbersome paper files. They're actually afraid they won't be able to work the computer. 9. Self-involvement is ... keep a friend or lover. You can begin to repair such rifts only through empathy. Get in the habit of putting ...
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... keeping ourselves from gaining the love, success and happiness we want in our lives. That's what self-defeating behavior does. It works against our own best interests. It defies our deepest desires. It creates more problems than it ...
... keeping ourselves from gaining the love, success and happiness we want in our lives. That's what self-defeating behavior does. It works against our own best interests. It defies our deepest desires. It creates more problems than it ...
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... keep us from getting hurt. The action itself seems logical and expedient at the time, and it might actually succeed in bringing about short-term relief. But that behavior invariably comes back to haunt us. Then we curse ourselves for ...
... keep us from getting hurt. The action itself seems logical and expedient at the time, and it might actually succeed in bringing about short-term relief. But that behavior invariably comes back to haunt us. Then we curse ourselves for ...
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... keep the book handy as a reference source. There are two reasons for this. First, as new situations arise, you might, like most people, find new ways to defeat yourself. Different chapters will suddenly take on new meaning and new ...
... keep the book handy as a reference source. There are two reasons for this. First, as new situations arise, you might, like most people, find new ways to defeat yourself. Different chapters will suddenly take on new meaning and new ...
Contents
Section 1 | 71 |
Section 2 | 95 |
Section 3 | 99 |
Section 4 | 138 |
Section 5 | 173 |
Section 6 | 177 |
Section 7 | 179 |
Section 8 | 181 |
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Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg Limited preview - 1996 |
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg Limited preview - 1996 |
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg No preview available - 1996 |
Common terms and phrases
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