Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating BehaviorPractical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more. |
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... Feel . Waiting Until It's Too Late Getting So Angry You Make Things Worse Saying Yes When You Want to Say No Holding a Grudge Assuming They Don't Want Anything in Return xW 11 15 21 25 29 33 37 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. [ vii)
... Feel . Waiting Until It's Too Late Getting So Angry You Make Things Worse Saying Yes When You Want to Say No Holding a Grudge Assuming They Don't Want Anything in Return xW 11 15 21 25 29 33 37 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. [ vii)
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... Feeling Sorry for Yourself Assuming the Hard Way Is the Right Way Thinking “I'm Sorry" Is Enough Holding It All In ... Feel Ready 113 117 122 126 130 135 139 143 148 152 156 161 166 171 Acknowledgments Much appreciation and gratitude ...
... Feeling Sorry for Yourself Assuming the Hard Way Is the Right Way Thinking “I'm Sorry" Is Enough Holding It All In ... Feel Ready 113 117 122 126 130 135 139 143 148 152 156 161 166 171 Acknowledgments Much appreciation and gratitude ...
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... feel worse than giving in to selfdefeating behavior, but few things make you feel better than overcoming it. Like eating sweets or having an affair, the high you feel after indulging in self-defeating behavior is short-lived. And the ...
... feel worse than giving in to selfdefeating behavior, but few things make you feel better than overcoming it. Like eating sweets or having an affair, the high you feel after indulging in self-defeating behavior is short-lived. And the ...
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... feel unprotected and alone. Then there are children who do not lack affection and attention, but are not given adequate guidance. Although they might feel loved, they often grow up feeling incompetent and incapable, and therefore unsafe ...
... feel unprotected and alone. Then there are children who do not lack affection and attention, but are not given adequate guidance. Although they might feel loved, they often grow up feeling incompetent and incapable, and therefore unsafe ...
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... feel, the more tenaciously they hold to whatever thoughts, attitudes and behaviors bring relief. If they do not develop more effective coping mechanisms, the ones that bring relief solidify into self-defeating behaviors. Naturally ...
... feel, the more tenaciously they hold to whatever thoughts, attitudes and behaviors bring relief. If they do not develop more effective coping mechanisms, the ones that bring relief solidify into self-defeating behaviors. Naturally ...
Contents
Section 1 | 71 |
Section 2 | 95 |
Section 3 | 99 |
Section 4 | 138 |
Section 5 | 173 |
Section 6 | 177 |
Section 7 | 179 |
Section 8 | 181 |
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Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg Limited preview - 1996 |
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg Limited preview - 1996 |
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg No preview available - 1996 |
Common terms and phrases
able accept adult afraid Alcoholics Anonymous ALEXANDER POPE anger angry avoid become child core of hate create defeating deprived didn’t effort emotional empathy envy eventually example expect express fear feel safe feel sorry felt forgive FRANCIS BACON frustration getting give happen hope husband important impulse keep kids know-it-all less lives look lose Mark Goulston marriage Menninger Foundation mind mistake mother needy never okay OSCAR WILDE ourselves overcome pain parents partner patients Paul Penguin Group Penguin Group USA PERIGEE person play problem procrastinate promise promise-breakers psychosomatic illness RALPH WALDO EMERSON realize reason rebel relationship resentment self-defeating behavior sense situation someone spouse stop sure TAKING ACTION talking tell therapist therapy they’re things thought told trauma trust turn understand upset USABLE INSIGHT usually wait what’s wife won’t wrong you’ll you’ve