Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating BehaviorPractical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more. |
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Page xiv
And in fact, sometimes the way precedes the will. Visualize a practical alternative to your self-defeating behavior. Then, when you find yourself starting down the rocky road to self-defeat, pause, reflect, and replace the destructive ...
And in fact, sometimes the way precedes the will. Visualize a practical alternative to your self-defeating behavior. Then, when you find yourself starting down the rocky road to self-defeat, pause, reflect, and replace the destructive ...
Page xv
That's why, for instance, some people use the fact that computers sometimes crash as an excuse for keeping cumbersome paper files. They're actually afraid they won't be able to work the computer. 9. Self-involvement is usually at the ...
That's why, for instance, some people use the fact that computers sometimes crash as an excuse for keeping cumbersome paper files. They're actually afraid they won't be able to work the computer. 9. Self-involvement is usually at the ...
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I became so concerned about this dilemma, in fact, that I developed chronic stomach problems. My mentor, the dean of students, arranged for me to participate in a program at the Menninger Foundation for Psychiatric Education and ...
I became so concerned about this dilemma, in fact, that I developed chronic stomach problems. My mentor, the dean of students, arranged for me to participate in a program at the Menninger Foundation for Psychiatric Education and ...
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... because he had unrealistic expectations, he bemoaned the fact that the sound from his instrument matched perfectly the music in his head only four times in his career (which was four more perfect moments than most of us achieve); ...
... because he had unrealistic expectations, he bemoaned the fact that the sound from his instrument matched perfectly the music in his head only four times in his career (which was four more perfect moments than most of us achieve); ...
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—ANDREMAUROIs THE COMMITMENT TO CHANGE This book will give you the inspiration, knowledge and skills to stop undermining yourself. But none of it will help if you are not committed to change. The mere fact that you've read this far ...
—ANDREMAUROIs THE COMMITMENT TO CHANGE This book will give you the inspiration, knowledge and skills to stop undermining yourself. But none of it will help if you are not committed to change. The mere fact that you've read this far ...
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Contents
| 1 | |
Procrastinating | 11 |
Waiting Until Its Too Late | 21 |
Saying Yes When You Want to Say No | 29 |
Assuming They Dont Want Anything | 37 |
Playing It Safe | 41 |
Always Having to Be Right | 45 |
Focusing on What Your Partner Is Doing Wrong | 49 |
Trying to Take Care of Everybody | 100 |
Refusing to Play Games | 104 |
Putting on an Act to Make a Good Impression | 108 |
Being Envious of Others | 113 |
Feeling Sorry for Yourself | 117 |
Assuming the Hard Way Is the Right Way | 122 |
Thinking Im Sorry Is Enough | 126 |
Holding It All In | 130 |
Putting up With Broken Promises | 54 |
Trying to Make up While Youre Still Angry | 59 |
Not Learning From Your Mistakes | 63 |
Trying to Change Others | 67 |
Rebelling Just for the sake of Rebelling | 71 |
Talking When Nobodys Listening | 75 |
Pretending Youre Fine When Youre Not | 79 |
Becoming Obsessive or Compulsive | 83 |
Taking Things Too Personally | 88 |
Acting Too Needy | 92 |
Having Unrealistic Expectations | 96 |
Quitting Too Soon | 135 |
Letting Others Control Your Life | 139 |
Leaving Too Much to Chance | 143 |
Letting Fear Run Your Life | 148 |
Not Moving on After a Loss | 152 |
Not Getting Out When the Getting Is Good | 156 |
Not Asking for What You Need | 161 |
Giving Advice When They Want Something Else | 166 |
Backing Down Because You Dont Feel Ready | 171 |
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Bibliographic information
| Title | Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior |
| Authors | Mark Goulston, Philip Goldberg |
| Publisher | Penguin, 1996 |
| ISBN | 1101657758, 9781101657751 |
| Length | 208 pages |
| Subjects | › › Self-Help / Personal Growth / Self-Esteem Self-Help / Personal Growth / Success Self-Help / Self-Management / General |
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