Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

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Penguin, Feb 1, 1996 - Self-Help - 208 pages
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Practical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more.

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One of the greatest tragedies you can experience is to come to the end of your life and realize that it has not been everything you'd hoped it would be. Even more tragic is to realize that your failure to fulfill your hopes and dreams ...
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But if you nip self-defeating behavior in the bud, resist the temptation to give in to it and replace it with a positive self-developing behavior, you will discover more selfesteem and self-respect than you have ever experienced in your ...
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The experience not only influenced my choice of careers but the way I subsequently practiced it. It made me vividly aware of the power of self-defeating behavior. I had come close to defeating myself in two ways that would later become ...
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THE IMPACT OF SELF-DEFEATING BEHAVIOR In my experience, self-defeating behavior is the main reason people go to psychotherapy. Nothing drives us crazier—or makes us hate ourselves more—than to realize we've been keeping ourselves from ...
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As with most persistent patterns, self-defeating behavior usually has roots in childhood experience. When children confronted with traumas are given both loving support and patient, effective guidance, they tend to develop healthy ...

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Contents

Chasing After Love and Approval From
1
Procrastinating
11
Waiting Until Its Too Late
21
Saying Yes When You Want to Say No
29
Assuming They Dont Want Anything
37
Playing It Safe
41
Always Having to Be Right
45
Focusing on What Your Partner Is Doing Wrong
49
Trying to Take Care of Everybody
100
Refusing to Play Games
104
Putting on an Act to Make a Good Impression
108
Being Envious of Others
113
Feeling Sorry for Yourself
117
Assuming the Hard Way Is the Right Way
122
Thinking Im Sorry Is Enough
126
Holding It All In
130

Putting up With Broken Promises
54
Trying to Make up While Youre Still Angry
59
Not Learning From Your Mistakes
63
Trying to Change Others
67
Rebelling Just for the sake of Rebelling
71
Talking When Nobodys Listening
75
Pretending Youre Fine When Youre Not
79
Becoming Obsessive or Compulsive
83
Taking Things Too Personally
88
Acting Too Needy
92
Having Unrealistic Expectations
96
Quitting Too Soon
135
Letting Others Control Your Life
139
Leaving Too Much to Chance
143
Letting Fear Run Your Life
148
Not Moving on After a Loss
152
Not Getting Out When the Getting Is Good
156
Not Asking for What You Need
161
Giving Advice When They Want Something Else
166
Backing Down Because You Dont Feel Ready
171
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Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior
Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg
Limited preview - 1996
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior
Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg
Limited preview - 1996
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior
Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg
No preview available - 1996

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About the author (1996)

Mark Goulston, M.D., is a corporate consultant who works with executives, managers, and line workers to help them get out of their own way so they can realize the success that their skills, talents, and abilities deserve. His clients include Goldman Sachs, Merrill Lynch, GE, White & Case, Eli Lilly and Company, Disney, Kodak, and the FBI. He writes "The Leading Edge" column for Fast Company. He was selected as one of America's Top Psychiatrists for 2004-2005 by the Consumers' Research Council of America. Dr. Goulston is the author of Get Out of Your Own Way and Six Secrets of a Lasting Relationship.
Philip Goldberg, a novelist and screenwriter, has authored or coauthored sixteen books.

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TitleGet Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior
AuthorsMark Goulston, Philip Goldberg
PublisherPenguin, 1996
ISBN1101657758, 9781101657751
Length208 pages
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Self-Help / Personal Growth / Self-Esteem
Self-Help / Personal Growth / Success
Self-Help / Self-Management / General
  
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