Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating BehaviorPractical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more. |
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... better choice than having another argument. The problem is, if you do not deal with hurt and disappointment quickly enough those feelings harden into resentment, anger, and hate. They fester inside and eventually turn into physical ...
... better choice than having another argument. The problem is, if you do not deal with hurt and disappointment quickly enough those feelings harden into resentment, anger, and hate. They fester inside and eventually turn into physical ...
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... better off concentrating on overcoming your own selfdefeating behaviors and changing yourself for the better. As for the other person, they're much more likely to come around if you use understanding and acceptance rather than coercion ...
... better off concentrating on overcoming your own selfdefeating behaviors and changing yourself for the better. As for the other person, they're much more likely to come around if you use understanding and acceptance rather than coercion ...
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... better than overcoming it. Like eating sweets or having an affair, the high you feel after indulging in self-defeating behavior is short-lived. And the shame, guilt, and self-contemptyou feel in their wake is not only chilling but long ...
... better than overcoming it. Like eating sweets or having an affair, the high you feel after indulging in self-defeating behavior is short-lived. And the shame, guilt, and self-contemptyou feel in their wake is not only chilling but long ...
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... better! I'm my own worst enemy!” How many times have you said those words to yourself? Chances are, your answer is “Too often!” How many times have you identified exactly how you're defeating yourself and vowed never to do it again? Too ...
... better! I'm my own worst enemy!” How many times have you said those words to yourself? Chances are, your answer is “Too often!” How many times have you identified exactly how you're defeating yourself and vowed never to do it again? Too ...
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... better. It is a coping mechanism. When faced with a crisis, a threat or a potentially upsetting situation, we try to protect ourselves. We grasp for something that will reduce tension or keep us from getting hurt. The action itself ...
... better. It is a coping mechanism. When faced with a crisis, a threat or a potentially upsetting situation, we try to protect ourselves. We grasp for something that will reduce tension or keep us from getting hurt. The action itself ...
Contents
Section 1 | 71 |
Section 2 | 95 |
Section 3 | 99 |
Section 4 | 138 |
Section 5 | 173 |
Section 6 | 177 |
Section 7 | 179 |
Section 8 | 181 |
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Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg Limited preview - 1996 |
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg Limited preview - 1996 |
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston,Philip Goldberg No preview available - 1996 |
Common terms and phrases
able accept adult afraid Alcoholics Anonymous ALEXANDER POPE anger angry avoid become child core of hate create defeating deprived didn’t effort emotional empathy envy eventually example expect express fear feel safe feel sorry felt forgive FRANCIS BACON frustration getting give happen hope husband important impulse keep kids know-it-all less lives look lose Mark Goulston marriage Menninger Foundation mind mistake mother needy never okay OSCAR WILDE ourselves overcome pain parents partner patients Paul Penguin Group Penguin Group USA PERIGEE person play problem procrastinate promise promise-breakers psychosomatic illness RALPH WALDO EMERSON realize reason rebel relationship resentment self-defeating behavior sense situation someone spouse stop sure TAKING ACTION talking tell therapist therapy they’re things thought told trauma trust turn understand upset USABLE INSIGHT usually wait what’s wife won’t wrong you’ll you’ve